It takes a village…Īt about 8-10 weeks I started to tell a couple of my closest friends and some of my family which took some of the pressure off but I still felt quite alone and isolated. With the help of my psychologist and psychiatrist I developed a plan to help myself cope and manage through my first pregnancy but it took me way longer than it should have to seek that help. If you’re feeling unstable, depressed or anxious in any way open up, tell some friends, seek some professional help. For many women who are not aware of their emotions and mental well being I believe these first 12 weeks / few months could be laying the foundations for how you feel the rest of your pregnancy and beyond if you don’t seek the help you need. Luckily, I am aware of my mental health and have ways to cope but during my first time pregnancy this wasn’t the case and seriously struggled to pull myself out of it and survive. Sickness both mentally & physically…īeing so incredibly sick with HG, spending days in hospital, weeks in bed, taking truck loads of medication that pretty much do nothing and not being able to care for my young daughter (Millie) definitely triggers my anxiety and depression. I couldn’t leave the house (or bed some days) and I began to feel so isolated and started questioning myself and my decisions. To be completely honest I started to feel a sense of jealousy of everyone who looked so happy and healthy doing all the things I couldn’t. This pregnancy I stopped engaging on my social media as I normally do because I felt like I was lying to everyone with whom are always so honest with me. Of course you might not want to shout it from the roof tops but why have we put this expectations on ourselves to keep this to ourselves? This means we have to suffer in silence with our emotions, exhaustion and sickness until we are in the “safe zone.”įor many weeks on end with both my pregnancies I sheltered myself, hid myself from my friends, my family and the community of women who support me day in and day out. Why are all these other pregnant women so happy and doing so much more than me?īut I cant tell anyone because I’m not in the “safe zone.” The First Trimester & 12 week “rule”…įor some reason we have developed this rule that we must keep our pregnancy to ourselves until 12 weeks. I feel guilty for not being able to be an attentive wife and/or mother. Im struggling and can’t look after my other child/ren. I thought you only got morning sickness in the morning? Why am I so sick and living off toast but Sally next door is sipping green juices and doing pilates everyday and she’s pregnant? No one told you about this? You thought it was all #blessedlife, glow and gratitude.Īnd then you start questioning and over analyzing everything. The painful boobs, the cramping, the spotting, the insomnia. The emotional roller coaster, the hormones, the exhaustion. All day or maybe just the morning or evening or maybe not at all. Sickness, isolation, emotions & questions.
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